Eloping doesn’t mean cutting people out; it just means doing things your way. But if you’re wondering how to include family in your elopement without compromising that just-us feeling, you’re not alone. For many couples, the idea of a big traditional wedding feels more like a performance than a celebration.

If you’re craving that just-us experience, it’s completely natural to still want your family to feel included in some way. You know they’ll be thinking of you. They’ve watched you grow, they’ve cheered you on, and while they may not be invited to the ceremony itself, it doesn’t mean they have to be left out entirely.

That’s why we’ve thought of 8 meaningful, non-cheesy ways to make your loved ones feel included, even though they won’t be attending your elopement. These ideas let you honour your loved ones without compromising the intimacy you’re craving.

1. Let Loved Ones Help You Choose Your Look

Because saying yes to the dress doesn’t have to be a solo mission.

Even though it’ll be just the two of you on the day, picking what to wear is still a big deal. Get your mum, sibling, or best friend involved by inviting them to help you choose your dress, suit, or accessories. Letting them be involved with this will help them feel connected to your plans, and it adds a special layer to what you’ll wear on the day.

2. Schedule a Post-Elopement FaceTime

Because sometimes a little reception can go a long way.

Once you’ve said your vows and soaked up the magic, take ten minutes to FaceTime your family. Picture this: You’ve just gotten married, still glowing, with your bouquet in hand and the Jim Thorpe hills behind you. It doesn’t have to be formal or posed, just a moment to say, We did it! and let them share in your happiness in real time.

3. Share Your Sneak Peeks With Them First

Because Grandma should see your kiss before Instagram does.

If you’re thinking about how to include family in your elopement without making it all about them, little gestures like sharing your sneak peeks first can go a long way. Before your elopement gallery hits the socials, give your family a private preview. It’s a simple gesture that speaks volumes: You mattered to us today. Send them a few sneak peeks or the full gallery with a personal note. You’ll make them feel like they’re part of your inner circle and avoid the awkward “I saw it on Facebook first” moment.

4. Collect Voice Notes for Your Morning Prep

Because who doesn’t want to cry (in a good way) on their wedding day?

Ask your parents, siblings, or best mates to record 30–60 second voice note before the big day. It could be heartfelt advice, a funny memory, or just a few words of love. Listen to them while you’re getting ready – it’s like a virtual pep talk from the people who know you best. Just don’t forget the tissues.

5. Bring Something Back for Them

Because it’ll mean more than you realize

After your elopement, surprise your family with a small, meaningful gift from the place you tied the knot. It could be a handmade candle from a local shop, a fridge magnet from a local shop, or something simple but symbolic, like a smooth pebble from the lake where you exchanged vows, or a pressed flower from the forest where you said “I do” – Include a note: You weren’t there, but you were definitely with us.

6. Take Framed Family Photos for the Day

Because sometimes a photo is more than just a picture.

Bring framed photos of your family along and set them somewhere special, like on a windowsill where you’re getting ready, tucked into your bouquet, or displayed during your ceremony. It’s a visual way to honour your loved ones, they’re the faces you love.

7. Wear Or Carry a Family Heirloom

Because heirlooms carry history and heart.

Wearing something that belonged to a parent or grandparent adds an extra layer of connection. It could be jewellery, a tie, a scarf, or even something small sewn into your outfit. Whether it’s visible or tucked close to your heart, it’s a silent but powerful way to bring them with you.

8. Throw a Post-Elopement Bash

Because you can still celebrate afterwards with zero pressure.

Eloping doesn’t mean skipping the celebration altogether. Host a casual party, a backyard BBQ, or a small dinner with speeches and cake. You can even play a video of your ceremony or share your favourite photos on a projector. It gives your family something to look forward to and a chance to toast your new chapter.

Bonus Idea: Share Your Story with a ‘Why We Eloped’ Video

Because your story deserves to be told your way.

After the champagne has fizzled out, sit down together and record a short video. Talk about why you chose to elope, what the day meant to you, and how much your family’s support means—even if they weren’t physically there. Share it privately or during your post-elopement party. It’s raw, real, and deeply human, and might even inspire others to follow their own path.

However you decide how to include family in your elopement, the most important thing is that it feels true to you—your day, your way!

So if you’re asking yourself, “Can we really have an intimate elopement—but still involve family?” The answer is: YES YOU CAN!

And if you’re planning to elope in Jim Thorpe? We’ve got you. From the legal details to flowers, photography, celebrants, and thoughtful extras, we make eloping feel effortless, personal, and completely unforgettable. If you’re wondering how to tell your family you’re going to elope, this will help!

Click here to see what’s possible with Jim Thorpe Elopements and discover why more and more couples are saying no to big weddings and yes to something beautifully simple!